Day 5: Approximations Count

Updated: May 1, 2020

Tip #5:

Approximations towards the goal count.

I don't know about you but we received the first bit of remote learning guidance from our school district this morning and we were all a bit underwhelmed. No lesson plan, no video, and no packs to keep them occupied for a minimum of 2 hours. With reality setting in that we're in this for the long haul, it is increasingly daunting to think we can keep our kids goal-directed and intellectually stimulated all on our own while also maintaining full-time jobs. The harsher realization this week is that I can do none of my usual (and now *new) tasks: therapist, parent coach, domestic organizer, family schedule keeper, *teacher, wife, daughter, friend, and mom, at anywhere near 100%. Current demands are just too great.

So, I'm giving myself some slack. And I'm giving the school district some slack. I'm working real hard on accepting that things are not going to be as tidy, as satisfying, as poignant, as tasty, as coherent, as politically correct or as efficient as I'd like them. And any approximation towards my own goals, counts. If my kids socialize with their classmates and get out for a walk today, I did okay. If I connect with clients and we spend 90% of the session talking about how we're surviving, I helped both of us feel less alone.

As observers, kids see us striving, juggling, scrambling, scratching our heads and unabashedly being human. They learn that setting goals and moving towards them is what matters, not the achievement. It's a practice, not a perfection. Every time they plop down and agree to do 20 minutes of math or write their grandma an email, they're moving towards goals too. It ain't easy but we're all in this together.

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